Your purpose in life is to find your purpose. The biggest barrier for people in finding their purpose, their best life, is that they are stuck on autopilot – spinning their wheels in a dead-end job, in a mundane life, and going nowhere fast. Spinning your wheels fast on one spot for too long will get you stuck in a rut you can’t get out of. You lose the ability to know what you want, and the confidence to act even if you did know. In essence, many people fall asleep at the wheel of their own life.
Learning how to think Big and become a freedom-preneur is critical to experiencing more in life. To design a life and business you love, you must think big. The thinking that got me to where I was in my mediocre life, would not get me where I wanted to go – creating the income, lifestyle and freedom I wanted. So I decided I would not settle for just being good; instead, I choose to be more and live great – and I started to think BIG – what a great life would look like.
Become a gladiator and start your passion business and experience the ultimate life you were meant to live. I promised myself I wasn’t going to be defeated by my negative thoughts (fear and limiting beliefs) when it came to starting my passion business. If my dreams were going to fail, they’d have to fail out in the world, not in my head. I asked myself – What’s the worst that could happen when I chase my dreams? I fail? Someone tells me I’m not good enough or smart enough or I’m doing it wrong? Those are bad, but the real horror would be to accept my socially prescribed fate, to sacrifice my happiness eight hours at a time, in exchange for a lousy certainty in a job that didn’t fulfill me.
Learning how to unleash motivation using pain and urgency was a critical skill in helping me plan my escape from employee to entrepreneur… and design the life and business I love.
Instead of complaining about how unhappy I was with my career… I used this negative emotion as fuel for motivation to create change. It’s at the intersection of pain and urgency where motivation to change – to go for what your want is accelerated. Instead of giving up on a great life, I learned to motivate myself from the pain of waking up each day with regret – from not being able to live with myself as a chicken-shit by not taking a chance on living my passion… knowing I had so much unrealized potential and experience left on the table of life. My motivation also came from the feeling of urgency that my life could not continue like it was, because as a middle-aged man, I was running out of time.
How to beat fear and start your dream business is a skill I had to learn when it came to designing the life and business I love. I needed a winning mindset to fight limiting beliefs and the made up fear (false evidence that appears real – drama conjured up in my brain) to stay confident in my escape from employee to freedom-entrepreneur.
Research shows humans’ survival instincts are wired for fear, which is helpful when a lion is chasing you. But that same survival mechanism also prevents you from moving outside your comfort zone – doing what it takes to create the income, lifestyle and freedom you want.
To combat this biological protection mechanism, I had to recondition my brain to beat fear by turning fear on itself. I needed to use fear to my advantage, to motivate me, vs. letting it debilitate me. That’s when great things started to happen.
Learning how to use your job to fund your freedom business is a critical step in creating the income, lifestyle and freedom you want. It is something we can all learn but it does require some new ways of thinking and developing some leadership skills.
When I got back after slaving for eight hours at the office, the last thing I wanted to do was get out the laptop and start building a business. Despite my desire, I lacked the energy and couldn’t do anything but collapse on the couch for an hour and watch television. Most of us need a couple of ‘me time’ hours to relax and wind down after family commitments and chores are completed before going to bed and getting up to do it all again. Forty hours a week in a job you’re not passionate about will eventually suck the life, hope and innovation right out of you. But don’t worry, there is a way out if you are ready and willing.
How to escape from employee to entrepreneur…requires making choices of what you want as well as what you don’t want. Destiny is not a matter of chance, t’s a matter of choice. Destiny is not a thing to be hoped for, it is to be achieved. Let me share more about how making choices has affected my direction and ultimate life destiny.
How to wake up early with excitement and go to bed late with enthusiasm is very easy to do… if you are prepared to make some changes. For a long time, I was severely depressed by my professional life. I was disillusioned by the lack of growth, and passion in my career. I would often wake up with a pit in my stomach, feeling ill, knowing I had to go to a job that didn’t fulfill me, I had to take orders from multiple bosses, and use my skills to make everyone else successful. A nice consistent paycheck was the only thing that kept me at my job.
Learning how to break through the B.S. holding you back… will enable you to finally design the life and business you love. If you are reading this week’s blog, it is likely you have “bull shit-belief systems” (B.S.) – fears and limiting beliefs holding you back from becoming the best version of you.
Although you may have a grasp on your life mission or purpose to take control of your life so you can enjoy more free time and financial abundance – you just can’t seem to make progress because the B.S has a stranglehold on you. But you are at your limits… you can’t take mediocrity anymore… you are ready to do what it takes (break through the B.S.) to create the income, lifestyle and freedom you want.
Make a choice to take a Chance… and Change your life. Your life of lack and mediocrity will never change unless you choose to take action to change it. Designing the life and business you love sounds harder than it is when you actually do it. Simple steps lead to pretty fantastic outcomes. Where you start is not what matters; instead, the choices you make about where you are determined to finish are everything. The choices you make will determine if, when, and how fast you create the income, lifestyle and freedom you want… and take action toward achieving it.
“The three C’s of breaking into your best life: you must make a choice to take a chance on your life, or your life will never change.” – Anthony Robbins, Personal Mastery teacher