Success is like growing a bamboo tree. That’s because success is a gradual process. It requires tremendous patience, persistence and positivity; and so does growing a bamboo tree. But most people lack these three critical characteristics for success… and because of that, they quit even before they really get started.
You’ve likely heard the famous quote, “SHOW ME THE MONEY!” from the hit movie Gerry McGuire. This phrase and the mindset that comes with it continues to be adopted more and more to this day. That’s because we live in an instant gratification society – people feel entitled and expect faster results and success even when they have not done anything to earn them.
To break into your best life and create the income, lifestyle and freedom you want, you must understand that progress takes effort and time. Success is a gradual process; nothing happens overnight without a lot of preparation, hard work and commitment.
Learning how to live your perfect day – every day, starts with writing down what you want, visualizing it with strong emotion, and taking massive action until you live it. Every happy and successful person I know has gone through a personal wake-up call (understand what they really want in life), shaken off chokeholds (fears and limiting beliefs holding them back), and baked up (got fired up with emotion – strong reasons why) to take the action necessary to live the life they love.
You can’t wish your way out of mediocrity. It takes dedicated focus and work. You must write down what you want on paper, visualize it in your mind with fiery emotion, and manifest it by taking action and adjusting your actions until you get what you want. There is a great saying, “Anything your mind can conceive, and your heart can believe, you can achieve.”
The 5 things leaders do every day to win in business are critical if you want to design the life you love. Find time, schedule, and take action every day to achieve your goals. There is an unwritten rule called the 80/20 Rule, or the Pareto Principle, that states 20% of your daily activities will give you 80% of your results. The key is to focus on the critical tasks that will provide you with the maximum results in designing life and business you love.
If you want to fail, keep focusing on the 80% – the many busy, wasteful activities that take up your time. But, if you want to succeed at creating the income, lifestyle and freedom you want, then make sure to focus on the 20% – the 5 things leaders do every day to win in business.
Up your attitude and drive with your why is key to designing the life and business you love. Attitude and a strong reason why will ensure you persist in creating abundance in your life (the income, lifestyle and freedom you want). If you don’t like where you are in life, all you need to do is make the decision to change, then up your attitude (your beliefs about what you can do), take massive action and push for amazing results –never quit. The key to overcoming adversity is to never give up. It’s that simple!
“Being relentless is like water cascading over the edge of a waterfall — consistent, powerful and by design, never ending.” – HOPE CEO, John Hope Bryant.
Learning how to ride the emotional roller-coaster of change is critical to designing the life and business you love. But you must really want to change to hang on for the ride. If you’re not ready and committed to stick to it, you will never survive the emotional force from the exhilarating ups and painful downs of making change and achieving a goal. The emotional roller-coaster of making change cannot be handled by those with impotent goals, a weak desire/reason why,
Making change for yourself, such as achieving an ultimate goal takes time and some dedicated reconditioning of the brain to counteract the strong limiting beliefs of what you can or can’t do. You have to wipe your mind clear and plant positive beliefs to replace your fears. You need to choose to have a beginner’s mind and believe you can do anything.
Turn life lemons into lemonade and you will forever design the life you love. Doing it takes patience, persistence and positivity to find new dreams, passion and purpose. In this blog, I share a personal story of my son Shae Howorko, who was destined to live his passion for professional hockey, but one freak accident shattered that dream forever. Shae did come out of his life changing personal crisis, and is now again pursuing a new dream by helping others. The lesson to be learned is that if life gives you lemons, just make lemonade. Don’t give up on finding your purpose and what drives you. If one door shuts, just open another one. If you keep plugging forward and focus on becoming the best version of you, you will eventually turn those life lemons into lemonade. It’s that simple.
The top two sacrifices in building your dream business are critical to designing the life you love. Success requires short term pain for long term gain. If you want to create the income, lifestyle and freedom you want, you must make sacrifices. When you take the jump to build your dream business… in the beginning you will work harder than you ever have. Your life will feel out of balance and a little chaotic. But don’t worry, building a side hustle of your dreams while working full time and looking after your family responsibilities does get easier. Sometimes you have to make a mess to clean up a mess. But believe it does get better.
Your purpose in life is to find your purpose. The biggest barrier for people in finding their purpose, their best life, is that they are stuck on autopilot – spinning their wheels in a dead-end job, in a mundane life, and going nowhere fast. Spinning your wheels fast on one spot for too long will get you stuck in a rut you can’t get out of. You lose the ability to know what you want, and the confidence to act even if you did know. In essence, many people fall asleep at the wheel of their own life.
Learning how to break through the B.S. holding you back… will enable you to finally design the life and business you love. If you are reading this week’s blog, it is likely you have “bull shit-belief systems” (B.S.) – fears and limiting beliefs holding you back from becoming the best version of you.
Although you may have a grasp on your life mission or purpose to take control of your life so you can enjoy more free time and financial abundance – you just can’t seem to make progress because the B.S has a stranglehold on you. But you are at your limits… you can’t take mediocrity anymore… you are ready to do what it takes (break through the B.S.) to create the income, lifestyle and freedom you want.
So how do you break the psychological chokeholds strangling your success – holding you back from becoming the best version of you… and design the life and business you love?
The first thing you need to do is understand what a psychological chokehold is! A psychological chokehold is a mental limitation creating fear and limiting beliefs in self, that holds you back from busting into your best life. You have psychological chokeholds when you never take responsibility to change your life. You create excuses and blame others for your circumstances. You get emotionally caught in the overwhelm of busy-ness and lackluster fulfillment. And as a result, you never move from desire – to become more or experience more in life.
The second thing you need to do is a “check up from the neck up” to see if you have any chokeholds that need to be obliterated. When I finally stopped to consider my own situation, I became aware of the chokeholds holding me back. I had strong fears and limiting beliefs holding me back from taking necessary actions to design the life and business I loved. I was zigging around in circles, going nowhere fast, like a rat on a caged wheel (aka, the “Rat Race”).